“Well, you know they say…”
My mom lived much of her life under the wing of the “they”.
One day, I decided to challenge her a bit on the “they” by simply asking who the “they” was. She gave me a quizzical look and then answered, “You know…people.”
I tossed another question her way. “Which people exactly, Mom?” I didn’t know and neither did she as she answered, “Just people…out there…somewhere…”
So, my mom would base her decisions and opinions on the thoughts of others, or maybe even the thoughts she thought others were thinking. What a self-defeating way to live! Have you ever caught yourself doing the very same thing?
It would have been easy to point a finger toward my mother, but if I wanted to live authentically into who I was personally created to be, then I owed it to myself to take a look into the areas where I might be accepting the opinions of the “they” and making them mine without any investigation or questioning.
Take some time to listen to your own mind chatter.
Who is saying those things that keep playing on repeat in your mind?
Honestly, it might be difficult to sort them out because we have been hearing (and might I add “believing”) them for so long!
You and I can begin this practice with a simple adjustment of words. Merely change “they say” to “Says who?”
Let’s not wait until the thoughts are well-worn ruts in the recesses of our mind that we’ll need to pickaxe out, but rather examine them as they come to us.
I am in no way suggesting that our thoughts and opinions won’t ever align with someone else’s. What I am doing is encouraging both you and I to not let the “they” decide for us and thereby define who we are.
Hey, but don’t take my word for it! Ask the “Who says?” question yourself.
You have one beautiful life to live. It’s yours. Be fully you and live it well.
If you need help sorting through the thoughts and questions, I’m here for you, helping you live Your One Beautiful Life.