Two of my grandchildren have birthdays 2 days apart. The celebration would be a combined party with an ugly doll theme. I headed to the fabric store to buy some remnants of fleece for the purpose of making some of these dolls. My daughter and daughter-in-law (mom’s of the birthday kids) and I began designing and creating the dolls. We wanted some to decorate with and one to give each child who attended the party. The process was fun and somewhere along the way we began to call them monster dolls.
I had to chuckle when a friend ask me what I had been up to lately. My answer, “Oh, just making monsters.” That brought some curious looks for sure. Later it hit me how telling those words actually could be. How much time have I spent making monsters in my life? How many times have I made something very simple into something huge? It goes something like this:
- Someone says something to me in passing. I take it personal, am offended and the “Drama Monster” is born.
- My plate is too full. I let overwhelm take over and an “I Can’t Monster” is born.
- I have a challenge ahead and am afraid to step into it. Fear becomes the focus and “Very Afraid Monster” takes over.
- I have some upcoming important decisions to make, but don’t take the steps to weigh my options and simply decide. I give birth to the “Confused Monster” and hang out with him for a while with my pockets full of “I don’t know’s”.
You get the picture right? And how does any of this serve me? The answer seems obvious, right? It doesn’t serve me. Careful not to answer too quickly. Actually, it does assist me. I get to stay exactly where I am, with fear, overwhelm, drama and confusion as my companions. I get to throw blame wherever I want for the reasons I am not reaching my goals and living the life for which I am created. I don’t have to take responsibility.
I can give the monsters power over my life or I can have that power. I really don’t have time or space for monsters if I want to reach goals, live my dreams, and be exactly who I am created to be. I suspect you don’t either.