I made a commitment to myself that I would write a blog every single week this year.
This is the 52nd blog I have written this year. When I click the publish button (and I will), I will have kept that commitment to myself.
If I make a commitment to you, I will keep it. If I make a pledge to myself I am not nearly as inclined to keep it. That being said, I find myself wondering if honoring the commitment to write a blog every week was more about keeping a commitment to you, my clients, than myself. I want to serve you and give you hints and helps to encourage you to live Your One Beautiful Life. I have done that. I hope you have had a chance to read the blog posts and have at least taken away a little nugget of inspiration. Not yet? They are still there for you to go back to anytime.
So here is the question I am asking myself today…
Why do I easily keep my commitments to others but let the ones I make to myself simply slip away?
The answer to this question is also the reason that I coach.
“People like us have a strong sense of responsibility and we give 110% all the time, for as long as we can until we find ourselves too burned out to function well or so dissatisfied that we are nearly screaming for some kind of change that can bring us joy (without the guilt tagging along).
I’ve been where you are, living under the weight of obligation and duty until it nearly crushed the “me” in me. Taking care of others is noble and right, but when it eliminates self-care we eventually have nothing left to give.
I prided myself on being superwoman (hero cape included). I was (super) capable but the truth is, I was dying inside.”
These words in quotes above are taken straight from the content on the “About” page of my website, http://youronebeautifullife.com/about/.
That over-responsible girl is still deep inside me somewhere, although, I have become more and more aware of her and her thinking.
She is the one who will let commitments to herself and self-care slide in order to accommodate others.
She is also the one who will eventually burn me out and leave me with nothing to give.
She is my brain falling back on well-practiced ways of thinking.
In the end, she doesn’t serve me or you in a way that will help us grow and unfold into beautiful living. I want more than that for both of us.
I am spending the last few days of this year reflecting on the past year, acknowledging its advances and setbacks.
I am simply observing and learning from them, not beating myself up for so called “failures”.
I have my eye on the over-responsible girl as I plan 2017. She can watch and learn that when I keep commitments to myself I am healthier overall and become better at serving others.
Interestingly enough, I have been saying that 2017 is my year.
I stand at the edge of its dawning and realize once again that I am the only one who can make it so.
Here is to my and to Your One Beautiful Life!
Let’s live well, first and foremost keeping the commitments we make to ourselves.